I often think about the situation in the black community concerning boys and young men. I consider it on life support. Let’s face it, it’s been a while since we thought of black men, as a whole, in a good light. Yes, I harp on us to the point that I believe I sound like an old man telling the kids to get off my grass. But lately, I have been thinking, “What’s the deal with the girls?” Where are the ladies? I mean REAL ladies, not just what you call a bunch of females. Any given day on social media you can find young girls shaking something or taking provocative pictures. You can see them out in public, wearing things that are far more revealing than the generation before them. Who is watching them?! Is anyone?
I have said many times that the way to judge a culture is to look at it’s women, and its looking pretty sad. While our boys are getting more and more feminine, our girls are becoming more masculine and very nonchalant sexually. Please don’t take me as some kind of moralist or a “Holier than thou” type person, I was trying to get in the draws in my day. The only difference is now these young girls are doing things that older women couldn’t even do back in the day.
I say all that to say this, I feel like we are approaching this from the wrong direction. We need to approach the situation with girls and get it corrected first and I believe boys will follow. We all know that girls are not checking for the “good guys” but what if they were? What if they did? What if girls wanted a boy that had a 3.5 gpa, instead of ballers and the guys with money? Think about it. You don’t believe that boys wouldn’t be breaking their necks to try and be that? Just a thought.