Relationships can be a wonderful thing when you’re with someone who completes you. All too often, however, people enter relationships to avoid loneliness, or to have the pleasure of saying “at least I’m not single.” Ideally, your significant other should enhance your quality of life, not diminish it. Although here’s no such thing as a break-up proof relationship, if you’re less than enthusiastic about your current romantic situation, here are three tell-tell signs that it may be time to take a step back and think about your current and long-term life goals.
Too many “I don’t like you” arguments
Most people would agree that arguments are bad for your spirit and your health. Sometimes, “getting into it” with someone you love or care about is necessary when you need to make an important point. When your significant other starts unnecessary arguments, or if you feel the need to argue with your significant other to make him feel bad about himself or to get him to leave you alone, it may be time to call it quits. Pay attention to the number of online arguments you have with your significant other in front of your friends and family, as they too are a major tell-tell sign your relationship may be coming to an end.
You’d rather be surfing
Being attracted to, or in love with, someone usually means that you’d rather give your undivided attention to that person more than to anything else. But, take notice when you’d rather be on the computer, chatting on Twitter or Facebook or watching a movie, than spending quality time with your significant other. I recently talked to a friend who said that his girlfriend spent most of her time on her iPad when he was around, even when they went camping together. I chose not to hurt my friend’s feelings by talking bad about his girlfriend, but I think her disinterest in him is obvious, and he may be getting his walking papers soon.
Dreams and goals put aside
Personal fulfillment is key to being happy in a relationship and in life. If you have dreams and goals, being in a relationship shouldn’t stop you from fulfilling them. However, men and women often put their dreams on hold for their girlfriends or boyfriends. When you start longing for the freedom to pursue your life ambitions, it’s better to wish your significant other well and move on by yourself. If you’ve always wanted to travel, for example, and your mate’s not into it and is particularly unsupportive, that’s a sign that it’s time to move on.
If you truly love your significant other, and you want tips on how to fix a relationship, seek advice from a trusted family member, your pastor or other religious leader or from a professional relationship counselor.