September 7th, 2012 
Up4Dsn 
Relationships can be a wonderful thing when you’re with someone who completes you. All too often, however, people enter relationships to avoid loneliness, or to have the pleasure of saying “at least I’m not single.” Ideally, your significant other should enhance your quality of life, not diminish it. Although here’s no such thing as a break-up proof relationship, if you’re less than enthusiastic about your current romantic situation, here are three tell-tell signs that it may be time to take a step back and think about your current and long-term life goals.
Too many “I don’t like you” arguments
Most people would agree that arguments are bad for your spirit and your health. Sometimes, “getting into it” with someone you love or care about is necessary when you need to make an important point. When your significant other starts unnecessary arguments, or if you feel the need to argue with your significant other to make him feel bad about himself or to get him to leave you alone, it may be time to call it quits. Pay attention to the number of online arguments you have with your significant other in front of your friends and family, as they too are a major tell-tell sign your relationship may be coming to an end.
You’d rather be surfing
Being attracted to, or in love with, someone usually means that you’d rather give your undivided attention to that person more than to anything else. But, take notice when you’d rather be on the computer, chatting on Twitter or Facebook or watching a movie, than spending quality time with your significant other. I recently talked to a friend who said that his girlfriend spent most of her time on her iPad when he was around, even when they went camping together. I chose not to hurt my friend’s feelings by talking bad about his girlfriend, but I think her disinterest in him is obvious, and he may be getting his walking papers soon.
Dreams and goals put aside
Personal fulfillment is key to being happy in a relationship and in life. If you have dreams and goals, being in a relationship shouldn’t stop you from fulfilling them. However, men and women often put their dreams on hold for their girlfriends or boyfriends. When you start longing for the freedom to pursue your life ambitions, it’s better to wish your significant other well and move on by yourself. If you’ve always wanted to travel, for example, and your mate’s not into it and is particularly unsupportive, that’s a sign that it’s time to move on.
If you truly love your significant other, and you want tips on how to fix a relationship, seek advice from a trusted family member, your pastor or other religious leader or from a professional relationship counselor.
Blue Knight is a finance writer/editor by day. In her personal time, she writes fiction and enjoys blogging about relationships, the writing process and indie publishing at Blue Knight, author. Her first novel, Monet Love, An Erotic Love Story, is in the erotic romance genre, although she’s not strictly an erotica writer.
| Get FREE Up4Dsn Email Updates! |
Follow us! 
|
Posted in 
Tags: 
I agree with most of what you’ve said.
When you’re really into someone you find time to be together. And by together I don’t mean merely being in the same house—but to have some personal interaction with that person.
You start passing each other like ships in the night—bad sign.
Maybe an indication your stuff is on the steep decline. Or worse—already DOA.
My recent post Abstinence Doesn’t Work: How Long Can You Wait?
Hey Adam! Thank you for stopping by and reading this post. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts too.
You're right about that passing like ships in the night. That is a really bad sign. If you don't acknowledge each others presence that is all bad.
So easy to fall in and out of love nowadays. I think if you're not happy with the partner, you should just break off, simple as that. Those three signs you mentioned are the most telling of all.
My recent post Shoppers Don't Trust Facebook Ads
I agree. Love seems to be like a seesaw…up and down. Where's the stability, you know?
Just breaking things off is the best option if it's not a healthy relationship.
Soooooo…. what do you do in a case of marriage? Of course everything has it's ups and downs. Problems at your job, raising your kids, relationships (of course) but that doesn't mean that we have to give up and bail out. In most instances you can't, in other instances you can try and make it better or YES.. by all means, just leave.
Of course we need to know when to say when and that can be hella tricky. I believe the tell-tell signs that Blue mentions here are awesome because this is destruction at it's best. But just because something isn't going your way when you want it to at the time that you want it to doesn't mean that it's time to leave. Relationships take work, and if you can't compromise in certain instances when it's needed, then it was never meant for you to be in a relationship to begin with. My partner can't live my life just like I can't and don't/wouldn't be able to live there's. You never know what that person is going through at that time. Dig deep and find the building blocks that got lost in the condemning first.
This is a great set of guidelines. But the new generations seem to be on devices of some kind most of the time, giving their undivided attention to social media…
My recent post Textuality
I totally agree with that. I wonder how most people deal with those barriers in a relationship.