October 10th, 2012 
Up4Dsn 
In this episode, J is once again joined by the passionate and outspoken Lauren Speed. The only difference this time around is that the discussion is longer and even more exciting. Previously, they discussed the so called differences between GOOD Crazy and BAD Crazy. Now they dive into whether or not it’s foolish to trust their partner’s to have friends of the opposite sex. If you know anything about Lauren and J, you should already know they won’t see eye to eye on this topic. Press play and watch the fireworks fly!
Up 4 Discussion…
1) Do you think your partner should have friends of the opposite sex?
2) Is allowing your partner to hang out with a friend of the opposite sex the same as giving them a ‘Pass to Cheat’?
3) Is J foolish to trust a woman as much as he does?
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*STANDING OVATION*
This is what I'm talking about! I agree with what you said 100%. Thank you so much for sharing such an insightful comment.
I've always felt that it boils down to trust and communication. With both of those things I believe a relationship can survive anything…especially friendships with people of the opposite sex.
I appreciate your honesty more than anything. Even if you didn't agree with what I said, just the fact that you can so eloquently state your position makes me listen attentively to what you're saying. In this case, I'm right there with you. I believe in trust and communication! That's what relationships should be rooted in.
Thank you again for the comment. It means far more than you know.
No Problem J! You are so welcome. I always keep it real and honest. Never been afraid to share my stories, thoughts, or feelings. I appreciate the "standing O" lol ; )
I have always been a person that got along better with boys/guys/men. I don't really have an explanation for it, some of the best friends I've had have been males. Growing up, I was always the only girl in the group. In a way it was kind of cool because I felt "protected". I have been active on Social Media sites since 2007. For a few years I was the only female that rolled in my "circles". I have become close to a handful of them, and have met some of them in person. We talk outside of social media, we lean on each other during good times and bad times. We support each others shows, blogs, posts, etc. Don't get me wrong, over the last 5 years I have developed friendships with women as well. Do I think my partner should have friends of the opposite sex? Yes, and the reason I say that is because we BOTH have friends of the opposite sex. It would be wrong for me to not want my husband to have female friends. Now, there have been times when each of us did not like where the other "friendship" was going because it got a little bothersome to the other (i.e spending way too much time together, talking way too much on the phone, hanging out all the time, etc). How did we handle it? We sat and talked about it. We did not make the other cancel the friendship. But we did let each other know how we felt about it and that perhaps we should ease up a bit. We both still remained friends with the people but we respected our feelings on the matter and slowed down the friendship. Allowing an opposite sex friend is most certainly NOT a pass for cheating. The key to a successful relationship is TRUST!!!! If you don't have trust, you certainly don't have a relationship. You also have to respect one another. If you are not comfortable with you partners friendship, talk about it (to them) and explain why. Get clarification, don't assume they are cheating. And please by all means, don't do the same for spite. J, I absolutely agree with you on this one. I do not think you are foolish. I respect your opinion on the subject. There aren't too many males that I have come across that feel the same. Your thought process on the matter was great and I couldn't agree with you more.
I'm the one who has more friends that are of the opposite sex. And I am aware that most of my close guy friends have some attraction towards me. But then again isn't that why we are drawn to some people and repel from others. We become friends with others because there's something about them that attracted us. It's just about setting boundaries and not keeping anything from our partner. If you feel that the attraction is starting to be "uncomfortable", then perhaps it's better to stay away from that friend. Just my two cents.
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I totally agree. We are friends with people because we are attracted to them in some way. It doesn't have to be physically either. We typically prefer to be around people that we are attracted too. That doesn't just apply to relationships. Unfortunately, no everyone realizes or accepts this.
Great comment. Thank you so much for sharing your insight.
1) Do you think your partner should have friends of the opposite sex?
If that do that's fine. If they should, I don't know now. I know I have no problem in that as long as that friend can hang while I'm around and I see just what type of relationship it is.
2) Is allowing your partner to hang out with a friend of the opposite sex the same as giving them a ‘Pass to Cheat’?
No, I don't think its giving them a pass. It's all about trusting them.
3) Is J foolish to trust a woman as much as he does?
Hmmm? From a person who has trust issues, I think give them some rope and see if they hang themselves.