Hello my Up 4 Discussion Family. I come in peace! *holds up the Vulcan salute* I know everyone got excited after reading the title, but hold your horses because this is NOT one of my X-rated additions, although I really wish it was. As you guys know, when it comes down to my posts, it seems that I love to be the center of attention (that was sarcasm, for my slow readers) But anyone who knows or has been following me can pretty much perceive me to be a very personable and intimate person; even if I don’t know you all that well. And of course, one of my proverbial speeches I like to follow is: if you’re not honest with or about yourself, then the truth is you’re just a flat out liar. I value opinions and my conversations here in the blog community, but, it’s not something I feed off of or revolve my life around. On that note, keep in mind I’m not looking for advice. In this lovely case, I believe that my situation holds weight because whether we try to deny it, hide from it, avoid it or ignore it, we still tend to find ourselves stuck in some type of bullshit situations (simply put) in life from time to time. And somewhere in the middle, we find ourselves in that little shade of grey, such as my case which I felt would be a good conversation piece.
Black and White
Boy met girl. Girl took boy home. Together they would build an empire. But only for a spell. If you want to find out more about this company, refer to a past post of mine that will quickly bring you up to date. Sooo… moving forward, in the sense of any relationship after whatever time period that suited each party, you both find yourselves making rational decisions when it came to particular life ordinances. If certain areas don’t work out in your project, but other areas fit in perfectly, then proclaimed logic (because you’re in love) says to accommodate each other; although, logically, the so-called facts and statistics say you shouldn’t commit to one task without the other. So what?! Fuck what everyone else is talking about!…together you strategize your situations and if everyone agrees, then you follow through accordingly. Love is blind and not everyone has the same intentions when it comes to being in a relationship. And if they do, no one’s situation is necessarily going to be done in the order that your “norm” consists of. Here is where the shading begins…
The Gray Area
Now that everyone is caught up, let’s dive a little deeper into what leads me into the arms of my Up 4 Discussion Family. This relationship is over and life goes on. Of course! The thing that keeps these 2 people (he and I) bound is a daughter. Quite a few things from within our timeline of events continues to appear at random (past bills, planned vacations, etc..), but those things are slowly but surely disappearing. Where we step knee deep into the shaded area is well after the break-up…. and HERE IT GOES… you find out that you are pregnant!? What would you do? And since I’m on the stand here, let’s take into consideration MY situation. Since I have been single I’ve come up with this memory-programmed outline in my head for my future plannning. Things I feel I have missed out on from being hindered in this particular relationship. I am, now, more comfortable than I have ever been. I’m solid and firmly planted in my position as a mother (to the 2 I already have) and working my 2 jobs without feeling stressed or overwhelmed. I’m feeling good. I’m not living in a life of luxury at this very moment, but that’s ok because I’m not far from where I am trying to be. You must have patience.
Now regardless of my situation, your situation, or whoever’s situation, face the facts that no one wants to be pregnant by an ex no matter how many kids the 2 of you already have together. Let’s see if I can take you on the roller coaster ride that somehow never led me to morning sickness, lol. With my situation given and all of these happy moments that I should be celebrating with my here and now, my first thought (of course) was to get rid of it. A little on the selfish side? Maybe. And there is no way that this can be happening to me at this moment along with the fact that I’m “high-risk”. Abortion prices have gone up at least $200.00. The cheapest abortion clinic in this area is only the cheapest because they provide no anesthetic through the procedure. So your options come down to: if you have an abortion, that would set you back a milestone in your finances along with the possibility of some minor complications. BUT, if you continue to do what you are doing, by the time the baby gets here, you will be better off in your progressions (with money) just as planned along with a newcomer to tag along for the ride. And let’s not forget about the minor complications that will most definitely be coming with this particular pregnancy.
Up 4 Discussion…
1) What would you do given YOUR very own situation at this present moment if you found out you were pregnant?
2) What would be your reasons for having the child/not having the child?
3) Fellas, what would you say if an ex told you she had a baby on the way?
4) How do you feel about abortions?