November 12th, 2011 
Up4Dsn Random 7 w/ Julia Blues
- If you could add a commandment to the Ten Commandments, what would it be?
I think the Lord pretty much covered all bases. I guess if I were able to etch something in stone, I’d say, “Thou shalt not do it in the butt.” - If you were engaged to a very wealthy man would you sign a prenup if he asked you to? Why or why not?
More than likely. I feel that what he obtained before me is his and vice-versa. I had no contribution to his wealth, therefore I should not be entitled to it. What we accomplish together is a different story. - What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever found attractive about someone?
Depends on what constitutes weird. Maybe his obsession with brushing his teeth for two minutes exactly. I’m serious when it comes to mouth hygiene, but I do not brush for two minutes. I was intrigued by this and would actually stand in the bathroom and watch him go to town brushing. That is a weird attraction now that I’ve admitted it. - List 5 things that you can’t deal with or accept sexually?
- Selfishness
- Stretching my butt cheeks apart like my skin is made of rubber.
- Extreme aggressiveness.
- Toys. We’re fine working with what God gave us.
- Since I am celibate, I can’t deal with a man who can’t respect or appreciate it.
- How important do you think titles are in a relationship?
I don’t feel they’re necessary. The only titles that matter are husband and wife, in my opinion. - In each of the following situations (dating, working, sexually) would you prefer to have a man who takes charge or gives suggestions? Explain.
I prefer a man who takes charge, even in giving suggestions. I can be indecisive at times, so if he knows what’s best and can tell me “no,” or “go ‘head and get it,” then I’m all for it. - If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
I would make a video telling the world that God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit are real. Tell everyone to search deep within their heart, find the one person they have not been able to forgive for whatever reason and forgive them, and to forgive themselves for holding onto the pain for all those years. I would end it in saying, “Spend the rest of your days doing what you love. Life is too short to be unhappy and unfulfilled doing anything other than what fills your heart with joy.”
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#1 – LOL! That’s funny, but I’m with you. People need to stop playing with their toot-toot holes.
#2 – That’s what’s up. I believe the same. What we had before we were together is ours alone, unless we decide to share it. Once we are in a committed marriage, everything thing earned together is ours collectively.
#3 – Wow! That’s some serious brushing. I’m wondering how much time you spent watching him do all that brushing. lol
#4 – Solid list, but I can’t say I wouldn’t be willing to give toys a try. If my woman wants to try something a lil different…let’s go for it. Just stay away from the back end…ya digg??
#5 – Personally, I think titles are very important because they allow each individual to know exactly where things stand in the relationship…or at least that’s how it should be ideally.
Really good answers Julia. Thanks a lot for being a part of the Random 7 series. It means a lot.
@ Up4Dsn: I’m not totally against toys in the bedroom. I was living a lesbian lifestyle for a long while where toys were used on the regular. For me, it took away from the act of intimacy. In the beginning it was cool until we became dependent on them. So for now I just choose to not even bring them in the room (well…since I’m celibate this doesn’t even apply). Thanks for allowing me to be a part of the discussion!
That’s interesting. I hope you don’t mind, but I have a couple more questions for you.
#1 – Are you still a lesbian? If not, what changed?
#2 – How exactly did the toys take away from the intimacy during your experiences?
#1 No, I am no longer a lesbian. To make a really long story short… As far back as first grade I had this natural attraction to girls that sprouted through adulthood. I also grew up in the church. My parents were the pastor and co-pastor of a church to be exact. I dibbled and dabbled but never fully engaged in same-sex activity until 19. Though I felt “at home” I still had an inner struggle. I had no peace when I went to sleep at night. One day I woke up and said I couldn’t live that way any longer.
#2 Because I feel that toys (by this I’m only speaking of devices that penetrate or vibrate) allow you to experience pleasure and orgasm on a different level. It feels good and by nature, when you engage in sexual activity, you’re going to want that same level of pleasure. When you interact without, you feel a difference.
Speaking for the lesbian experience… I did not feel I was experiencing the true essence of a woman with a toy involved. It was more pleasurable when it was just “us.”
Another great one! Love all of your answers Julia! Really appreciated #7!
Thanks, I really appreciate that!
Some interesting questions and really good answers! That tooth-brushing thing was kinda funny, though…
Thank you! Yeah, the whole tooth-brushing thing was quite interesting. He had some good forearm strength due to it. =)
I’m curious as to what you mean by “titles.” Coming from gay relationships, I understand that there are roles that some play, but I’m not sure you’re talking about the same thing.
When I refer to titles I’m talking about the following: Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Fiance, Husband, Wife, Boo, Wifey, Jump Off, etc.
It’s the label someone applies to the person they are involved with.
Gotcha! If a relationship isn’t defined, how does one make it to the ultimate title of husband and wife?
Precisely! It is very important that a relationship is clearly defined so that people know their roles and are aware of the titles they each hold.
I see your points. I guess I’ve just seen too many people get caught up in titles/labels that they lose sight of purpose and begin to have a sense of ownership.
Interesting. I disagree with some of what she said, but it’s all about opinions anyway. Good interview; it got me to thinking about my own answers to said questions.
Feel free to share your answers. I would really like to know how your answers would differ. Plus, it will give me an opportunity to learn more about you.
Thanks for chiming in. I’m glad my answers got you to thinking about how you’d answer the questions. That’s what life is all about…discovery.
LMAO @ number 4…I know the feeling…so not a turn on!!
Interesting questions and great answers!!
LOL, not a turn on at all! Thanks for reading and chiming in! ^_^
Hi Julia! I enjoyed your Random 7- especially your transparency even in the comments. I like that selfishness made it to the top of your list in Number 4. I think that’s what makes intimacy so important- the turn-taking of pleasure, if you will. I had to learn that the hard way because I got really spoiled from time to time. But now-a-days I’m finding that it’s much better to give…
Hi Shetraces! Thanks for saying that. Sometimes I feel like I can be too transparent, but at the end of the chapter, if it helps someone then I’m all for it. =)
Selfishness in the bedroom is a no-go. Can’t have that. I ditto your sentiment on it being better to give, especially in that department. I prefer that over receiving…or let’s just give equally.
Your answer to number 1 is insanely funny. I keep forgetting that you have comedic abilities.
I loved your answer to signing Pre-nup, and it says much about you as a person. Good question and good answer, in return. I believe most should view such as “what we will accomplish during the marriage” to wealthy spouses.
Toys. Another answer to which I nodded in agreement.
Thanks, Don! I can’t be funny on purpose, or I’ll just say being funny is never my intention. I just say what I say. ^_^
If somebody wants dibs on your premarriage money, you better look them in the eyes before walking down the aisle. Then you’ll see their heart ain’t really in it.