Random 7 w/ Rae
1) Who are three people of the opposite sex that you consider the most attractive?
Forest Whitaker – smart, unusual sex appeal and has a mean look. He appears brilliant. Quirky and looks like he can tell you to have a seat and well, you’ll have a seat.
Chiwetel Ojiofor – I just adore his acting skills and roles he chooses. Brilliant. The British accent doesn’t hurt.
Don Cheadle – a chameleon of sorts. Also a thinker and seemingly brilliant.
Honorable mentions: Braylon Edwards, Michael Ealy, Justin Tuck, Hugh Jackman, Dwayne Johnson, Jose James, Idris Elba.
2) If you could clone yourself, would you do it? Why or why not?
No. My other super powers conflict with cloning. Too much awesomeness in too many places. Who can handle all that? You ask what superpowers I have? That’s another post. Besides, clones can’t be controlled. Has anyone watched Battlestar Gallactica? Clones may not be as kind or awesome as I work to be. One of me roaming the world is really enough.
3) What are 5 articles of clothing you hate to see a man wearing and why?
I’m pretty open to how men choose to adorn themselves. I like all kinds of styles. I love the thugs, the avant garde, the brothers in suits, the ballers, the uniform wearers, men who have a certain flair and style, men who are artsy, the rastas. So, 18-80 and well-groomed is key. I am an avid fan of the male species. Avid. I love good haberdashery. That being said I am not a fan of:
- Sagging pants – why are you showing me the indent of your arse? I’m not feeling it. I see beauty in many things, but not this trend. Not to mention, can those fitted boxers be clean at least? I can’t.
- Men who stuff themselves into clothes that don’t fit – there are way too many examples of this to mention, so as not to offend anyone, I won’t mention the not-so-innocent. I don’t care how you have chosen to adorn yourself. Your clothes should fit. Your body – not the body you want, not the body you plan to have in late 2012, not the one you had back in your early college days. The body you have right now.
- Run over shoes. I don’t care if they’re from Payless or you’re rocking the latest Prada, Gucci or Gianfranco Ferre, Johnston & Murphy, Nike or rain boot. I could care less. Just have it together. I would much rather he have two pairs of good shoes than seven pairs of run over shoes.
- Suits that are not the classic cuts. I don’t like seeing a man with a suit jacket that comes down to his knees – even if it’s tailored. Although I appreciate the effort, when it comes down to suits, I believe in classic cuts.
- The matching linen or short sets. I may be old school in some ways, but I would rather he end up in linen pants with a shirt that is different.
4) Have there been any friendships/relationships that you knew weren’t beneficial for you and you needed to end them? If so, why did the friendship/relationship have to come to an end and did you ultimately put an end to it?
Yes, there have been one or two friends I had to dismiss. The first, lied, stole and stole some more. And being someone who I believed was my friend, I don’t think I wanted to believe all of the mayhem and foolishness she was up to. She had absolutely no remorse for it. I was young, too trusting and exceptionally green. The next – he betrayed my confidence. I trusted him and confided in him when I was going through things. He was a town crier and re-told all those stories to people we knew. When I found out, I immediately stopped speaking with him. Both of those situations and the romantic relationships I’ve had over the last ten years have been such a blessing to me because it taught me so much about people, about myself. I count it all joy. Also, I had to learn the difference between confidantes, constituents and comrades. See TD Jakes talk about it here:
5) Would you pose nude for playboy if they offered you $1,000,000? Why or why not?
Yes, I’d definitely do it. I am plus size (size 18) and I think my body is a nice body (it’s mine) but it would be groundbreaking. My father would probably have a fit, but a million goes a long way. I’d like to think I’d be a pioneer of sorts in this case. A big yellow girl with an afro in Playboy! It could cause both a lot of controversy and a lot of discussion. Seeing as how I tend to be a natural trouble maker, maybe this would be right up my alley. The “rubenesque woman” – we’ve always been in style, so might as well flaunt it if you got it!
6) What is a tragedy you endured and grew stronger from? Explain.
Fortunately, no major tragedies to date. Or at least what I consider tragedy. A few bouts of devastation. Maybe a few disasters and some minor crises. I’ve been blessed in this way. All of the things that have happened let me know I’m made of good stuff! It also has let me know my weak points and the things I need to work on as a person. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands in times of challenge and controversy.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
7) If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
I read this and had to step away from it for a while (couple of days). I thought of one answer that comes to mind. Count of Monte Cristo – where the priest is dying. Edmond Dantes is receiving instructions from the priest on how to find this hidden treasure. The priest gives him the instructions and then tells Edward not to seek vengeance on his enemies who put him in prison. Edmond, tells him he’s still going to seek vengeance. Then the priest says “Vengeance is mine saith the Lord.” Dantes replies, “But I don’t believe in God.” On his dying breath, the priest says “but He believes in You.” Long winded, but that God loves us. Believe in Him and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Serve others and live your life unapologetically with no regrets.
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