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Random 7 w/ D.L. Sparks

November 5th, 2011 Up4Dsn

Random 7 w/ D.L. Sparks

  1. Could you enter into a serious, committed relationship with someone who is still friendly and keeps in contact with their ex?
    This is a very delicate situation that only mature and open-minded people can be involved in. Personally I could if the person I was dating was open and honest about the entire situation from the beginning. Nowadays coming across someone without kids is hard so meeting someone who isn’t in contact with an ex in one way or another is pretty rare. I think it’s when the sneaking and lies start coming into play that things start getting dicey and I’m one who doesn’t tolerate “extra” so I need all cards on the table from the beginning. I don’t like the “Oh by the way…” conversations five or six months in cause that’s when you get cut off.


  2. If a man proposed to you and then cancelled the engagement, do you think you should give him the ring back? Explain.
    Honestly yes I do. He purchased it as a representation of something that is obviously no longer there and to hold on to it would be delusional on my part. Not to mention it would be a constant reminder of a relationship, a very serious one, that didn’t work out. So yes he could definitely have the ring back. I would offer it now if he doesn’t take it….*shrugs*that’s a different story. At that point that’s when stones and settings can be changed and it becomes a BANGING right hand ring.


  3. If you could instill one lasting message in every child, what would it be?
    To wake up every morning and take one big HEAPING dose of self-respect and remember not everyone is worthy of your time or your friendship. You have to love YOURSELF above everyone else and NEVER put anyone’s need or wants before yours. It’s not about being arrogant or conceited people will treat you the way you demand to be treated. If you want to be taken seriously then you need to act accordingly.


  4. Why do some women find bad guys so attractive?
    I truly believe that for some women the whole “bad boy” appeal is the perception of security. Women like to believe that their man can (and will) take care of them on every level. I could dig a little deeper and say it goes to the whole “wants a man like her dad thing” but that’s too deep. Bad boys give off the air that they will handle their business by any means necessary so a woman innately finds that attractive because that’s how we’re wired. Not saying women should be considered weak but men are wired to dominate and provide and men who are a little rougher around the edges adds a little extra intrigue to that.


  5. What is something dangerous/adventurous/extreme that you would be willing to do at some point in your life and what is something dangerous/adventurous/extreme that you would never be willing to do? (Examples: Bungee Jumping, Hang gliding, Skydiving, Whitewater Rafting, etc.)
    I’ve always wanted to skydive. I see that as such a freeing experience because you literally have to let go of EVERYTHING and jump and in so many ways that mimics a lot of life experiences. Just letting go and taking the leap of faith. I’d have to say I’d stay away from would be anything involving water, especially angry water. Whitewater rafting….nah…y’all can have that, it has nothing to do with hair and yes I can swim. But drowning is not a pleasant way to die. LOL! Anytime I have to ‘fight’ water to get to where I need to be…I don’t need to be there.


  6. Scenario: If you’ve been in a committed relationship for a long time (5yrs+) and the man you’re with has no plans of proposing to you anytime soon and you get pregnant, would you be more likely to force him to propose to you so you don’t conceive the child out of wedlock or would you remain in the relationship or leave and have the child and gain a baby daddy?
    Realistically I can’t see myself in a relationship that long and not knowing where we are headed and then on top of that getting knocked up. I’m way too grown for that but hypothetically speaking if I fell and bumped my head and ended up in this situation I would probably just have it on my own if the relationship didn’t work out because if I have to “force” anyone to propose then I don’t need him and he don’t need me. I want to have a lifetime of happiness with someone not a few years of misery mixed with happy moments just because I wanted a wedding and not a marriage.


  7. If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
    I would want people to realize that all black women aren’t money hungry, half-naked, dick chasing Twitter hoochies stalking men with status or a pocket full of cash. There are those of us that are deeper than a bottle cap full of water and respect ourselves enough to illicit respect in return and we do just want to fall in love once, whether he’s rich or not.


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Random 7 w/ Blaq Daisy

November 1st, 2011 Up4Dsn

Random 7 w/ BlaQ Daisy

  1. Describe the worst date you’ve ever been on.
    It’s kind of funny that you ask me this, because I was telling this story just yesterday. I met this guy on Myspace (circa 2006). He wasn’t the best looking guy I had ever seen but he was really easy to talk to. He was interested in my schoolwork, which was basically my “everything” at the time. Our first date wasn’t anything to write home about, but it warranted a 2nd date. The second date, I met him for an early outing. We went to the movies, went for dinner and cocktails & afterwards we went to this park to “just talk”.

     

    During the talk, I bring up my recent scare with my dad’s health (he had heart surgery a few months back) and he tells me that he can’t accept his mother’s mortality. He then tells me that he is extremely close to his mother, especially since his father left. Then he says, “I haven’t dated anyone in a couple of years and sometimes I miss that connection or touch, ya know? Sometimes when I have a really bad day, I go over to my mom’s house and get in bed with her and I let her hold me.” <<– side eye – IT DOESN’T STOP THERE.

     

    He then goes on to tell me about this “thing” he does or has the ability to do. He tells me he “watches himself”. He says that some of his memories in life are from the “outside looking in” as opposed to the “inside looking out”. And just the other day, “his other him” watched him at work.” Some of you don’t know, but my background is in psychology, so I knew how to handle the situation without upsetting this crazy MOFO! I asked clarifying questions: “How do you know you’re watching yourself?” “Do you feel like it affects your work?” He goes on to explain how “his other him” watches him sleep, watches him wash is car, and how he doesn’t feel it’s a problem. He felt it made him unique.

     

    Other than the self-revelation of multiple personalities and my constant thought of “where was his ‘other him’”during the conversation… the date wasn’t that bad.

     

    And before you ask, he wasn’t lying… he talked about how much it hurt for people to say it was “his problem” and how his parents never wanted him to talk about it. Shame!


  2. If you could get rid of one invention, what would it be?
    Caller ID – Being on either end of someone not answering my phone calls and not answering others phone calls for various reasons, I feel like my generation was the last to know the difference. What I mean is that we’ve experienced that feeling of not knowing who was calling you and being genuinely surprised to talk to someone. I feel like we are lacking on communication, in a social media world. I like to talk, & I think I have a pretty decent voice. So call me and stuff!


  3. Besides yourself, who has the biggest influence on the decisions you make when you’re in a relationship?
    Other than the politically correct answer of “my mate”. I would have to say my father. I have a sneaking suspicion that my father was a pimp in his earlier life. He always says some “oh, that’s the oldest trick in the book” or some similar story when it comes to giving male advice. He’s always pretty honest. He famously called my last boyfriend a leach. He says how he feels because he knows I will consider it, but always make my own decision. That guy is pretty awesome though.


  4. Do you think it is possible for a man and a woman to just be friends? Explain.
    I do think it’s possible. However, I do believe all of my male friends would sleep with me if I let them. Well, maybe not all, but you get my point. I think that it is really easy to be friends with men, but sometimes it is hard to set those boundaries of what is appropriate and what isn’t appropriate. So, as long as you have those boundaries, I think it’s possible and even beneficial for men and women to be friends.


  5. Have you ever fantasized about someone else while having sex? Who were you fantasizing about?
    Oh, absolutely. Not often, though. I try to stay present. But there have been times where I’ve thought of an ex or hot actor/athlete to get things going. I’ve had Boris Kodjoe fantasies, but the rest shall remain nameless because they were people in my life. But I will say they all did very memorable things. :)


  6. List your Top 5 guilty pleasures.
    1) Real Housewives of Atlanta – this goes against everything that I love about being black smh!2) Musicians/Artists – They are the bane of my existence, but I love them so! I am so attracted to men that can create that it is ridiculous. However, the other qualities that these men tend to possess (self-centeredness, financially unstable, etc) is why they are my guilty pleasure. Love them! & Hate them!

    3) Gossip – I love listening and dishing. Love, Love, Love! I hardly have true opinions about it. I just like to be in the know.

    4) Cheesecake – Considering that I’m lactose intolerant, I submit to torturing myself in the privacy of my own home. I rarely do this, but cheesecake is my friend and stuff.

    5) (and I’m reaching here) Erotica – I’m not a big fan of porn, but it’s something about reading stories about sex that make it much more intense. As a matter of fact, I need to re-up on some books…


  7. If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
    I would call my family and friends telling them where my half-written manuscripts were and tell them to compile something to get my thoughts out in the world. Overall, I’ve tried to put my life out there and I would hope that those things that I’ve said over the years would help someone avoid some mistakes I’ve made. I hope that it would teach them to accept themselves and love their quirks & even strive for the impossible. I would also tell them where my photography was and tell them to put it in a gallery in Harlem or DC <<the two places I love the most. I figure a dead girl’s work would have more clout and that they could make that happen **wink.


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Random 7 w/ Mr. TramueL

October 29th, 2011 Up4Dsn

Random 7 w/ Mr. TramueL

 

  1. What are 5 books that you think everyone should read?
    Reading is FUNdamental. Reading provides an experiential schooling; make it a point to learn something every day. I’m impartial to memoirs and sociology; I believe everyone should read …

     

    Kirk Franklin, The Blueprint: A Plan for Living Above Life’s Storms

    Beyond the music, beyond the church pew. Mr. Franklin provides his life experiences as lessons. He tones down the rhetoric you read from other Christian authors and provides a “real life” understanding.

     

    Huey P. Newton, Revolutionary Suicide

    With a firm grasp on the definition, Revolutionary Suicide inspired additional reading from Bobby Seale to sourcing for additional information concerning The Black Panther Party. Thought provoking read that destroys the myths & preconceived notions about Huey & The Black Panther Party.

     

    Tom Burrell, Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority

    Capable of starting a social revolution. Mr. Burrell goes beyond exposing the problems infecting our mental psyche by providing us with the why; why we feel, think and believe the myth’s, stereotypes and generalizations presented to us.

     

    Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

    Poetry imbued with passion. The Prophet is a collection of inspirational essays that encourage free thought and mental initiative.

     

    God, The Bible

    Self explanatory.


  2. Have you ever broken someone’s heart? If so, describe how it occurred and how you felt afterwards. If not, describe how you felt when someone broke your heart.
    Mr.TramueL is a lover, I don’t crush a lot. If I have broken someone’s heart I don’t know about it. There is however the mysterious time the hood of my car was keyed, coincidence? I’on’t know.

    My heart has been broken & I’m better for it. It forced me to look internally. Once you understand you, you can begin the work needed for understanding “us.”


  3. Who is a music artist that you couldn’t be paid to listen to? What do you dislike about the artist and/or their music?
    I Am a musicophile. There is not one specific artist, however I have not acquired a taste for the genre of Country Music. Can’t explain it, you gon’ have to trust me on this one. Lol


  4. Describe a recurring nightmare that you’ve had and what you think it may have meant.
    I don’t sleep. I will classify this as a daymare, it is one of self-defeat. It is the expectation that others will see me as a disappointment in my career and relationships. I believe it means, don’t disappoint yourself.


  5. Could you date someone that was bisexual? Explain why or why not.
    Honestly I’ve never given this much thought. Most of us have an idea in our minds about how a “good” or “correct” relationship is supposed to be, for me that involves a heterosexual partner. I could date a bisexual woman, if we’ve chosen each other. I would trust that.


  6. Describe your most memorable/exciting sexual experience.
    Service is one of the highest ends. I aim to satisfy every time. Every. Time. I Am demonstrative in love and I like healthy pleasures. I’m usually all about giving, my most memorable and exciting experience came when I met another giver. She taught me how to receive and showed me a few pleasures of her own. A gentleman is a gentle man, I’ll never kiss and tell.


  7. If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
    They say your life flashes before your eyes moments before your life ends. I wish I were able to broadcast those images for all to see. Folks will see the transformation of my heart, prayerfully this will inspire. “Aspire to Inspire before you Expire”

     

    I Am.

     

    Thanks for the opportunity to share with your readers *J. It presented an opportunity to get to know myself a little better.


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Random 7 w/ Angie LaLa

October 25th, 2011 Up4Dsn

Random 7 w/ Angie LaLa

  1. Scenario: What would you do if you went to a job interview, for your dream job, and the person interviewing you was a previous lover? Explain.
    I would remain professional and be cordial but I wouldn’t acknowledge our history except to ask how he’s been since we last saw each other. He would know how much I want this job because he knows me and what I want to do with my life so hopefully that would be his focus more than what went down with us.


  2. If you could travel to any place in the world, where would you go, how long would you stay and why would you choose that location?
    I would want to go to Milan, Italy and stay for a month. I have never been out of the country and I have always dreamed of going to Italy because of the food and the history of the country. Milan has that plus its one of the major fashion capitals of the world so I feel that I would learn a lot from the people, art and views of the city.


  3. What is a song you initially hated, but then grew to love?
    Chris Brown’s “She Ain’t You”. I hated it because he sampled Michael Jackson’s “Human Nature” and everyone has sampled that song but I grew to love it because I listened to the lyrics and I love the line where he says “Cause I’m thinkin bout you…its your fault babe…never wanted us to break up…no not this way” He sings it with so much passion and I definitely can relate.


  4. Would you or have you ever attend a sex club or swinger’s party? If so, describe your experience. If you haven’t attended one, explain why you would or wouldn’t attend.
    I wouldn’t attend one because even though I’m pretty open to new sexual experiences, sharing my partner with others is something I have never been into. I am a heterosexual woman so I don’t see myself being intimate with anyone of the same sex either. If I am in a relationship, its a monogamous one and if I am single, I don’t want to have sex with random people for the hell of it. In my opinion, sex is something that should be experienced with someone you have a connection with and that connection should go past the physical.


  5. If you had to choose who lived and died between one of your parents and one of your closest friends, who would live, who would die and why? Also, explain how difficult this decision would be for you to make.
    It would be one of my closest friends because I couldn’t live without my parents. They are my support system especially my mom and a part of me would die if she were to die. The decision would be very difficult and in fact I would rather die than to choose death to any of my best friends because we are just that close. Family comes first, then friends, then everyone else.


  6. If you broke up with your partner for a week and then you two got back together, how would you respond or feel if you discovered that your partner had sex with someone the same day you two broke up?
    I would question his intentions. I would have to reevaluate our relationship and figure out why he was so quick to have sex with someone else. Once we discussed what happened and why it happened, then we could move on from there.


  7. If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
    I would want to leave the world knowing that someone could relate to my experiences and that they learned something from any situation I went through. My website and Ustream show is called “The Angielala Experience” for a reason. I wanted to share my life experiences with the world in order to vent out my frustrations but also to help others going through similar situations and let them know that they aren’t alone. I can be their voice if they are too shy or scared to speak out and that no  matter what happens in their lives, every experience is worth it because lessons are learned which helps us to grow.


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Random 7 w/ Dani

October 22nd, 2011 Up4Dsn

Random 7 w/ Dani

  1. What is one of the most difficult decisions you’ve made in your life?
    This may sound odd to some people, but having really thought about it, I would have to say that one of the most difficult decisions I’ve made in my life was to be ME. As a child I was very timid, shy and quiet. I stayed clear of confrontation and drama. I excelled in school and was probably the easiest pushover you would have ever met. I was eager to please people especially; my family and just the thought of doing the right thing in their eyes would grow to affect a lot of my decisions in life. As I got older, I was les quiet, less shy and wayyyy less timid lol. However, I still thought of others before myself and did things that I knew would please my family. I can’t really pinpoint the exact moment that I changed. I would have to say it was a course of events that would take place during the years I spent away in college that I stopped caring about pleasing others. I stopped caring about what people thought of me. I shared my thoughts more, I loved for me, I lived my life for me and no one else’s judgment mattered. It was a difficult process and while it may have been the hardest decision, it was the best decision.


  2. Under what circumstances would you stay with a person who cheated on you?
    This is a touchy subject for me. I have been cheated on before and even though I broke up with the person, I did take them back (about a year later). However, I don’t think that the trust in our relationship was ever regained or the thought that the person you loved could betray you like that. I mean, something about it just never goes away. That was years ago and just having seen the damage it can do, I would most likely never stay with someone that cheated on me. Notice I said most likely. If I were married and especially, if we had children, I would try to work it out the best way I could, even therapy. It would end if they proved to be a habitual cheater, but if it was just a onetime offense, I would try to work it out. Marriage is very important to me, as well as a loving environment for my future children. Too many families are torn apart because the adults didn’t take the time to work on them or couldn’t see the valuable reasons why they should have.


  3. What is one of the most memorable gifts that you ever received from someone?
    The most memorable gift I have ever received was a prayer box from my mother. It’s a beautiful cream box, with a short saying on the inside of the lid. In the center of the box there are three glass angels and when the box is open it plays one of Beethoven’s classics, Fur Elise. She gave it to me the Christmas before I went away to college and anytime I was homesick, I just let it play over and over again. I don’t remember placing any prayers in there physically, but I definitely stared at it and even cried sometimes while I prayed silently or when I had a million questions in my head that only God could hear.


  4. What is something you are scared to do, but want to do at some point in your life?
    Having a family scares me. Not the type of fear that would prevent me from doing it, but I do worry about having a family of my own and letting them down somehow. What if I screw up my kids? What if things that I couldn’t stand about my own upbringing somehow slip into who I become as a parent? What if something happens and I can’t provide the way that I want to. I know there are ways to plan for these things and just to do the best you can. However, family is very important to me and I want them to always be happy and well taken care of. Not sure there’s a way around this fear outside of just taking one step at a time.


  5. If you only had 24 hours to spend $1 million, how would you spend it?
    I will start off my answer to any question like this the same every time. If I was given any amount of money the very and very first things I would do is get that how Sallie Mae off my back. Lol. No seriously, that would be the best thing to ever happen to me. I would then need to sit down and plan out what I’m doing in terms of my future education all the way through my doctorate. If I plan right I should still have plenty left for saving and spending, but mostly saving. Oh and I’d get Sallie Mae off my girlfriends back too.


  6. Describe what a “perfect world” would be to you.
    I’m not sure I can picture a perfect world. A part of me really feels like things happen for a reason and that there needs to be an equal balance of things in the world to clash against each other. I also know that everyone will have a different vision of what they think a perfect world is and there’s no way we can create a society based off everyone’s vision. A few things that do come to mind however are, living in a world where people don’t judge one another. Where people strive to reinvent and rethink until the tasks they set out to accomplish are completely and utterly perfect according to their own standards and no one else’s. People would be reliable, have morals, and common sense would be a lot more common than it seems to be these days.


  7. If your life was ending in the next five minutes, what would be ONE final positive impact you would want to leave on the world?
    2:35pm
    (Please read at my funeral)
    Dear those of you, who are blessed to live long enough to read this, discover your purpose and live for it. Treat life and those around you with energy, enthusiasm and empathy. Never take anyone or anything for granted. Watch more movies, play more games and read more books. Let me say that one again… read more books. Always make time to exercise. Try to listen to more people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6. You’d be surprised and amazed at the same time. Spend more time dreaming while you are awake. Make your own dreams come true. Eat less junk. Make more people smile. Get rid of the people in your life that bring you down, that you can’t count on and that are always complaining. Life won’t always be fair, but as long as you have life, be thankful. Laugh. Love. Dance. Give hugs. Watch sunsets. Do things you’ve never done be
    2:40pm
    I need to work on typing faster. Five minutes went by too fast lol. I’d also add the link to this song if I had the time (Shine). It just really makes me smile and think about life. That’s what people should do and what I would want to also share in the last five minutes of my life. I don’t know how huge of an impact my ramblings will make. I have no idea how many people would show up to my funeral. I do know however, that someone will probably post and hopefully it will get some circulation for a few weeks. *shrug* idk :)


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