So, what end of the payroll spectrum are you on? Are you in between? Are you earning a six figure salary? Are you only making minimum wage? Would it matter if you met someone you vibe well with and they worked at a place that is nowhere near the industry in which you thrive? Does that make you too good for them? Or does that make them not good enough for you? Looks, personality and even brains. Everything is right there in front of you, except for the fact that they’re slinging grease all day or pushing a mop. They are working somewhere that you may have never worked, will never work, or never pictured yourself being with someone who worked in that field. Are you more worried about the feedback you will receive from family and friends? Are you worried about your image? Is this a deal breaker for you? Would you be embarrassed? Or would you not even give the person the time of day? And after you have answered all of that, tell me why?
I have never seen so much arrogance at one time. From bloggers to tweeters to CNN; I never knew that people could be so picky about the person they would like to spend their life with. Now don’t get me wrong, I understand there has to be balance and stability, but is it possible for everyone to think outside the box for once? Although I have never worked at Burger King or any fast food place for that matter, maybe I’m a little more sympathetic to the situation because I do know what hard work is. Are you only looking for someone’s financial gain because you know that THEIR money could possibly help you get out of your debts? Are you looking at what they already have established because that’s where you feel YOU need to be (even though YOU didn’t work for it, but somehow you feel that’s what you deserve)? Are you worried about your partner’s status because that will help your status (sounds like a groupie to me)? We can worry about the personality and whether or not we vibe later. Right now let’s just focus on how this person is going to benefit me.
How does one process this information? Since I have been blogging, I lost count of how many available men out there would never date me (for example) because I have 2 children (any woman, really). BUT… if I only had one, I could possibly pass the BAR. LOL! Let’s say that I did work at Burger King. The fact that I could hold my own, take care of my kids and balance my bills on this Burger King paycheck still wouldn’t hold up in court. Let’s not forget that women are cold-blooded-stake-in-the-heart-stabbers as well, but tell me what makes you so hot? What gives a person the right to downgrade others because of what they have going for themselves? Is it because they feel as if they fit the “norm” and everyone should want to or be with someone like them? I’m not so sure that I would even add whatever characteristics these “types” have to my list of standards. Primarily because I look beyond pockets and status. SN: To be honest, it’s not everything it’s cut out to be. I’ve been there and done that,lol. Just saying.
To conclude my message, (because I could rant and rave about this all day) I feel that no matter what you do or how deep your pockets run, you can’t deny the truth behind who you fall for. You could come up with excuse after excuse, YOUR reasons why it would never work, and a bunch of other bullshit. You may even end up looking like a total asshole because you were more worried about your appearance and the passing of “society’s” judgement. You know this was the right move but instead you chose the latter. Would you still try to justify the “right-ness” behind your choices? Are you worried about how you would look in Burger King’s window, because when you make plans to go eat lunch with your partner you can eat right there at the place they work? How convenient! I think there are a lot of people looking for love in all the wrong places and they will either die lonely or unhappy, because they fell in love (or so they thought) for all the wrong reasons. I think the heart goes way deeper than the shallowness that I have seen lately, but I guess once your mind is set, it’s set. Happy match-making everyone!!
Up 4 Discussion…
1) Could you date someone who worked in an industry earn a lot less money than you?
2) Would you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable dating someone who worked at a fast food restaurant?
3) How important is your partner’s job title and salary to you?